Did you know grown children moving home to regroup or refocus their lives is happening more than ever right now? I am so excited to have my son move back home for a while after living in Kansas City for the last 2 1/2 years. The best thing I have ever done is raise 3 boys. (Read this post) Being a mom has always been the best job I have ever had.
If you have been reading my blog, then you know I am on my 3rd marriage. I got married over 4 years ago and since my children were grown, I did not anticipate them living with us. My husband has never had children.
However, shortly after we were married my oldest son, moved in for a couple of months and now my youngest son and his golden retriever are living with us. I couldn’t be happier but it is an adjustment for everyone.
Giving my grown children a place to regroup or refocus gives me so much pleasure. I am also so thankful to my husband that he makes it easy. Since we are a blended family, this opportunity will give my husband and my son a chance to get to know each other better.
3 Tips On How To Make It Work With Your Grown Children Moving Home
- Expectations – Before your children move home, set up a time to go over everyone’s expectations. Be open and discuss any and all issues that might come up (you will need to readdress them as time goes by). If everyone is open and honest from the beginning it will cause less conflict later.
- Time Frame – How long are they staying? You can adjust this as time goes on but you should have a time frame that everyone has agreed to so that there will be no hard feelings and no surprises.
- Communication – This will be the key to making it work. Make sure you have open communication with everyone. Set up a time to clarify expectations or address any issues that come up. Give everyone a chance to clear the air.
Grown children moving home will mean adjustments from everyone in the house. This isn’t a bad thing, it actually can be a really positive thing for you and your grown child. The key is addressing all of the pros and cons up front. Remember, this isn’t only about you. It takes swallowing some pride for your child to move back.
Luckily my son didn’t have to move home. He actually had a great job in Kansas City as a software engineer. He finished college in 3 years and started working immediately. After working for 2 1/2 years he realized, he did not like his job and lifestyle.
He asked me if it would be an option to move back home for a couple of months so that he could redirect his career. After discussing it with my husband, we decided to give him this opportunity. I am sure it will be more of an adjustment for my husband than for me.
It has only been a couple of days so far with my son moving home. We did set up our time frame and discuss the expectations. I will keep you posted on how it goes.
Would you let your grown child move home to regroup? Any advice is welcome in the comments below.