Bust the Myths and Embrace Your Best Midlife Yet

I’ll admit – I never really thought about getting older (and all that would come along with it) until I, well, started getting older. 

There I was – running on the hamster wheel of life, following yo-yo diets (let’s be honest, they never work like we hope they will), adopting the “eat less + work out more” mentality that I was always told, and measuring my weight (and truth be told, my WORTH) by the number on a scale. 

When I look back, I spent years of my life in this cycle…and it wasn’t until I entered my 40s that I REALLY started to realize the things that ONCE seemed to do the trick were simply no longer working. 

Maybe you can relate?

The truth is, whether we ‘saw it coming’ or not, midlife is often painted as a looming crisis…a time when everything starts to fall apart, and we’re left scrambling to pick up the pieces. From navigating career changes to redefining relationships, and yes, confronting the inevitable changes in our bodies, midlife is a time of transformation unlike any other. 

Here’s the thing, friends. I am a walking, talking example of the reality that midlife does not HAVE to be any of the negative things you may imagine in your mind or feel “attacked” by out of nowhere. While this new season and all that comes with it miiiight catch us off guard at first, it’s also an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and adventure! In fact, through 1:1 coaching and my group coaching program REVIVE NOW, I have witnessed hundreds of women experience true transformation of their minds, bodies, and souls during midlife. 

I’m talking about women who were anxious, unsure, and fearful about their future…and are now energetic, enthusiastic, and excited about everything in store. 

I’ve watched women go from feeling uncertain to having immense clarity. From feeling insecure to stepping into a newfound confidence.

And the same is possible for you, too! It all starts with de-bunking the common MYTHS we’ve believed about midlife. 

The most common concerns I hear from women when I connect with them for 1:1 or group coaching sessions are some form of a “myth” about midlife, aka things that are simply not true. Or don’t have to be true, at least. 

Today, I want to share with you a handful of the things I hear most often, and why/how the myth doesn’t have to play out in YOUR life. 

MYTH 1:Time has passed me by. It’s too late for me to get in shape and have the energy I used to have. 

SO much of what I hear from women when it comes to their fears about approaching midlife falls under the umbrella of simply not feeling like themself anymore. And it makes sense! Because during this time of our lives, things are literally shifting around and changing in our bodies. 

I could go on about this topic forever (it’s something we work on in practical, tangible ways in REVIVE NOW), but for the sake of this blog, I’ll summarize the truth about this myth by saying: We cannot expect to feel like “ourselves” (i.e. good, strong, energetic, etc) by doing the SAME things and eating the SAME foods we always have. 

And before you see this is a downer, stay with me, because it’s actually quite exciting! 

Why, you ask? Well, this “truth” is actually a permission slip for you to SWITCH THINGS UP. To learn what foods will serve your body best in this season. To know the exercises that will help you not only stay in shape but gain strength. To embrace self-care practices that will give you a new (and lasting) burst of energy. 

So, the fear of not being “able” to feel like ourselves in midlife simply is not true. We just have to decide that we’re going to be open and moldable, and I’ll be honest – having a midlife coach and community (ahem, accountability) can make the journey THAT much easier (and fun).

MYTH 2: I’m the only one fighting this uphill battle.

Easily one of the FIRST things women share with me about entering midlife is that they feel alone…like they’re the only ones going through this massive life transition. They feel like noone else is experiencing the lack of libido, low energy, etc.

The truth is, even if we know we’re not TRULY alone (of course other women are going through midlife), it can certainly feel lonely when we don’t commonly hear other women talking about it openly. 

Do you want to know one of the BEST things about this season of life? SO MANY OTHER women are experiencing the same things as you. My point? There is an abundance of opportunities to make new friends, cultivate relationships, and genuinely be the furthest thing from lonely or misunderstood. 

In fact, one of my favorite aspects of REVIVE NOW is getting to witness (and take part in) the new, meaningful friendships that evolve. We even have experts who teach us about the specific areas of struggle we face in midlife that I mentioned above. And again, the best part is that we get to go through it together.

MYTH 3: My best days have already happened. 

It’s natural to approach our 40s, 50s, and 60s and honestly wonder if our best days are already behind us. Memories, beautiful as they may be, can also have a negative impact on our hopefulness about the future. The kids have grown up, moved away, and don’t really need us anymore. We paused our careers years ago to take care of our families, and now we’re struggling to understand our purpose.

Maybe you’ve experienced this…not only feeling like most of the “best times” are behind you…but also wondering if choosing to prioritize yourself in this season is selfish…

I most certainly have battled these thoughts, and I’ll cut to the chase here: so much of it is mindset. 

What I mean is, that we get to decide what we believe about our midlife. If we decide that no one needs us anymore, that everything “good” has already happened, and that putting ourselves first is something to feel guilty about, well, our reality (aka our LIFE) will be a reflection of that.

But, if we flip the script by deciding to get HOPEFUL about the days to come, and excited about navigating a new season with new needs, then the same truth applies: our life will reflect that!

This is where things get exciting…because the choice is yours!

And if you’re wondering how to switch up your mindset around this season of your life, consider the possibilities of what could lie ahead for you. New hobbies. A refreshed sense of freedom. New, exciting relationships. A new chapter in your marriage. Traveling to places you’ve never been before. Becoming your kids’ friend rather than just their parent. The possibilities are ENDLESS, my friend!